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How much to put in red envelopes?

From: prettypinktress prettypinktress is not online. Last active: 11/18/2009 9:31:55 AM
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Date: 10/1/2009 at 10:49 AM

We're having our tea ceremony and banquet this Saturday (doing this in San Francisco where all of my family is -- we got married and had a formal ceremony and reception on 9/19 in Nebraska)... I know we're supposed to give red envelopes to relatives younger than us that are unmarried. My question is -- how much? I have no idea as I've never attended a tea ceremony before. Are we talking about like $1's or $20's? And we're supposed to give two envelopes to each "child", right? I didn't know if there was like a norm out there in the Chinese community that them or their parents would expect...

Thanks!




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From: ring_pop ring_pop is not online. Last active: 11/21/2009 8:00:43 PM
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Date: 10/1/2009 at 3:29 PM

Umm... I didn't know about this tradition so I didn't give away any red envelopes to younger relatives. But my parents gave red envelopes to my cousins who helped out with the tea ceremony (the ones who poured the tea, held the tray, etc.). I think that they contained something small, maybe $20 or $30.





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From: clearheavens clearheavens is not online. Last active: 11/22/2009 1:41:16 AM
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Date: 10/1/2009 at 5:00 PM

For little kids, we're talking about 1's and 5's. For older, we're talking 10's and 20's. I don't think the amount is very important because (with the exception of kittle kids) no one opens it until after the event, anyway. It's rude to open in front of others.

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From: Ms. Wan Ms. Wan is not online. Last active: 11/13/2009 11:43:34 AM
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Date: 10/1/2009 at 10:55 PM

we gave out 5's to our younger cousins.



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From: prettypinktress prettypinktress is not online. Last active: 11/18/2009 9:31:55 AM
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Date: 10/1/2009 at 11:06 PM

Thanks for your responses! I know we're supposed to give two envelopes to each younger, unmarried relative, so I think we're just going to go ahead with one $5 in each envelope for a total of $10 per person.




From: jsmlo jsmlo is not online. Last active: 11/3/2009 12:16:03 PM
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Date: 10/2/2009 at 12:44 PM

you don't really give out red envelops to younger kids during your wedding. you receive envelops from elders.

you usually give them out during new years, etc after you are married.



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From: Ms. Wan Ms. Wan is not online. Last active: 11/13/2009 11:43:34 AM
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Date: 10/2/2009 at 8:22 PM

jsmlo - actually you also give them out after your tea ceremony (or after you get married) too!



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From: seevictoria seevictoria is not online. Last active: 11/20/2009 11:45:47 PM
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Date: 10/6/2009 at 10:53 AM

$10-$20 each envelope is fine!





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