Wondering if I will become like my Mom when I have kids (aka Mom is driving me nuts)
From:
cwtan76
Date: 9/21/2009
at 11:13 PM
Sigh...
Sigh...
So the FI's family is from China. You would expect them to be a stickler for tradition. Oh no... They could not care less!
My family is from Singapore... My mom is fussing about the tea ceremony. I mean her interpretation is not even the right way I think!
So she wants my nephew to open the car door when the FI comes to pick me up. I told her there is no car door, because both of us will be in the hotel! And he is not getting in a cab and driving around the block!
Then she goes "Oh! Your nephew can open the door when he comes to the door then". But isn't that when the bridesmaids play the "open door" games? So wouldn't they open the door? Help!?
Sigh... she says that she wants me to have a simple wedding (save money, don't show off, etc), and then turns around and insists on all these things... I hope that when I have a daughter and she gets married, I will not be as fussy as my mom!
Replies:
From:
vitamint
Date: 9/22/2009
at 7:38 AM
Haha. My FI is ABC. I am "white chick from Buffalo" as my MOH likes to say. FI promises to medicate me if I ever start acting like either my mom or his mom.
From:
clearheavens
Date: 9/22/2009
at 11:37 AM
I can kind of understand where she's coming from because my mom has the same concerns.
My mom wants me to have VIP treatment from my FI and FI's family in regards to the tea ceremony because it means that he and his family value me and that my parents aren't throwing me off to some family who won't treat me right. So Mom has told me to sit in the car until FI opens the door for me, let him extend his arm and lead me at the ceremony, etc. Although in real life, I do all of these things for myself, but for family harmony I'm just going with the flow of it.
Best thing to do is to rehearse it in real with your FI and your mom and then things like "there's no car" comes up so she'll see where you're coming from.
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From:
jadedecaro
Date: 10/20/2009
at 8:40 PM
wow, i think im the only full chinese girl from scratch(AKA made in china) on here!lol
and im not even have a chinese wedding.lol ironic.(i might do a full on traditional wedding but that is only a fantasy.)
im marrying off to an persian american guy.lol
well, im sure u wont be like her when ur daughter gets married, but remember ur mom is actually happy for u and sad that ur no longer her little girl at the same time.
and if u two payed for ur own wedding then just do whatever u two want to do.but politely correct ur mom. but listen to her patiently as well.since she's obviously the most important person to u.(along with ur family)
